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Sunshine Cleaning (2008)
IMDB rating: 7.40
Plot: In order to raise the tuition to send her young son to private school, a mom starts an unusual business — a biohazard removal/crime scene clean-up service — with her unreliable sister.
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Directors: Jeffs Christine
Actors: Arkin Alan,Spevack Jason,Zahn Steve,Collins Jr. Clifton,Olsen Eric Christian,Dooley Paul,Chapman Kevin,Dempsey Christopher,Browder Vic,Brutsche Ivan,Comedy,Drama,
When should a wife just walk away and never look back?
I am married to a man 14 years older than me and we have been married almost ten years & I married him at age 20. Through the ten years he was very mean, cold, and aloof but I had my reasons for staying mainly because I had a sick child with him and no help or place to go. I never stopped trying to work on my marriage & I never cheated. As our ten year anniversary approaches I am seriously considering leaving now. Although, he isn’t as monstrous as he was, he is still not loving or affectionate but more so nicer than what he used to be.
I thought things had gotten so much better between us & that there was hope. I stuck with this man through everything from him just filing bankruptcy to him being diagnosed with high blood pressure. I have catered to him and fought off bill collectors & so much more! However tonight I discovered something very hurtful.
He began attacking me earlier in the day by saying I don’t clean the house and this and that. To make a long story short I figured out how to open his work phone that he locks and I checked his text messages just to find a woman saying good morning sunshine last night was great and this morning was OMG with a smiley icon next to it. He was home all night and this morning but he knew the person because the number was programmed into his phone under a business name WALMART. Then another woman wrote and said that she can’t let 2009 go by without telling him she luvs him and how much he means to her life. He did not even delete it so it must have meant something to him. After giving my all I think its time to say screw him and his finance’s, his blood pressure and his whorish ways. I want to finally live for my child and myself. I have never lived before and now I know how much I don’t mean to him: )
I too spent 10 yrs married to a man who was never loving or affectionate, and who had loads of financial problems. But when he cheated on me and walked out leaving me financially devastated, I filed for divorce because this marriage isn’t worth saving, had he been a kind loving man and slipped up maybe it would be worth going to therapy but this man has never been nice to you, in fact he is finding fault with a woman who has always been there for him. You are still young enough that you have a chance for a different life. I too realized that I never meant a thing to my ex husband so I divorced him and never once looked back, unless it was to feel hurt about things. I have since remarried a different kind of man who treats me with dignity and had I known I had a future I would not have wasted 10 yrs in living in misery.
jude | Jan 18, 2010
1Pe 3:1 In the same way you wives must submit yourselves to your husbands, so that if any of them do not believe God’s word, your conduct will win them over to believe. It will not be necessary for you to say a word,
1Pe 3:2 because they will see how pure and reverent your conduct is.
1Pe 3:3 You should not use outward aids to make yourselves beautiful, such as the way you fix your hair, or the jewelry you put on, or the dresses you wear.
1Pe 3:4 Instead, your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest value in God’s sight.
1Pe 3:5 For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting themselves to their husbands.
1Pe 3:6 Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything.
1Pe 3:7 In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
1Pe 3:8 To conclude: you must all have the same attitude and the same feelings; love one another, and be kind and humble with one another.
1Pe 3:9 Do not pay back evil with evil or cursing with cursing; instead, pay back with a blessing, because a blessing is what God promised to give you when he called you.
cool_dude | Jan 18, 2010
"When should a wife just walk away and never look back?"
Now seems like a good time. He’s obviously cheating. It doesn’t seem fair that he got the best parts of your life and YOU get what’s left over. Him attacking you over not cleaning, etc. is just his feeble attempt to provoke you into leaving so he doesn’t look like the douchebag in the situation.
Ms. GTO | Jan 18, 2010
I am so sorry this has happened to you. You have been very strong and brave and I think now is a good time to keep that strength and get out. Your husband has not appreciated what a wonderful wife he has and what a wonderful marriage he could have had. Cheating, in my opinion, is a definite deal breaker. He doesn’t deserve you and you deserve much better, and so does your child. Good luck!
P.S. Just this week, my pastor preached about how everyone has a cross to bear and how you have to be strong and deal with what life throws at you. And then he said that if you were in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship, that it was not your cross and you should protect yourself and not have to suffer.
applgrrl1 | Jan 18, 2010
You should have walked away and never looked back a long time ago.
Destiny | Jan 18, 2010
It sounds like you have already made up your mind. Seems like hes not going to change and you cant change him. Maybe if you leave he MIGHT realize what he has lost. I would find someone else and stop wasting your time with someone you dont really love, it might even be better for you kids sake also.
bunny46307 | Jan 18, 2010
Missy,
I guess infidelity is the key issue. If you’re sure he has been unfaithful, then, darn see a lawyer. It might be best if he is required to leave by the sheriff. The child needs a home, you see. Anyway, sorry for the ten years of cold-ast-abuse. (Gotta spell it funny) Next time don’t wait for a decade to pass.
SIX6UN | Jan 18, 2010
Terminator 1,2 and 3
